http://www.healingemotionalabuse.com/arts/ArticlesServer.php?op=getArticle&id=47e96c7c-f684-45a9-b251-13947f000001 http://www.healingemotionalabuse.com/arts/Category/all/Techniques-for-Positive-Conflicts_47e96c7c-f684-45a9-b251-13947f000001.html Techniques for Positive Conflicts Mar 25, 2008 Neil Warner Know that you need a little conflict creation, when... 206 need:4.9,behavior:3.7,positive:3.7,confront:2.5,tactics:2.5,tactic:2.5,focus:2.5,effectively:2.5,upsetting:2.5,change:2.5,going:2.5,conflicts:1.2,conflict:1.2,ahead:1.2,little:1.2,upset:1.2,creation:1.2,simply:1.2,confronting:1.2,pinpoint:1.2,course:1.2,plan:1.2,ignored:1.2,dissatisfied:1.2,money:1.2,negative:1.2,precisely:1.2,consequences:1.2,plans:1.2,improvise:1.2,affecting:1.2,time:1.2,assertive:1.2,energy:1.2,planning:1.2,exactly:1.2,doing:1.2,techniques:1.2,issues:1.2,argument:1.2,really:1.2,works:1.2,surprising:1.2,attention:1.2,partner:1.2,person:1.2,attentive:1.2,respectful:1.2,needs:1.2,escalate:1.2,safely:1.2,refuse:1.2,avoid:1.2,battles:1.2,hurting:1.2,clean:1.2,relationship:1.2,interactions:1.2,heat:1.2,frustrating:1.2,having:1.2,sick:1.2,environment:1.2,conducive:1.2,creating:1.2,whatever:1.2 need:4.9,behavior:3.7,positive:3.7,confront:2.5,tactics:2.5,tactic:2.5,focus:2.5,effectively:2.5,upsetting:2.5,change:2.5,going:2.5,confront effectively:9.1,little conflict:4.5,conflict creation:4.5,upset dissatisfied:4.5,dissatisfied ignored:4.5,course plan:4.5,positive conflicts:4.5,plan ahead:4.5,pinpoint precisely:4.5,negative consequences:4.5,plans time:4.5,time money:4.5,money energy:4.5,energy whatever:4.5,assertive tactic:4.5,tactic really:4.5,really works:4.5,positive interactions:4.5,positive environment:4.5,issues change:4.5,escalate safely:4.5,need a little:3.0,little conflict creation:3.0,confronting of course:3.0,upset dissatisfied ignored:3.0,ignored or simply:3.0,doing such behavior:3.0,going to change:3.0,course plan ahead:3.0,time money energy:3.0,need to pinpoint:3.0,techniques for positive:3.0,effectively you need:3.0,behavior is affecting:3.0,money energy whatever:3.0,plans time money:3.0,need to focus:3.0,whatever to confront:3.0,planning what exactly:3.0,argument this tactic:3.0,refuse to avoid:3.0,tactic really works:3.0,person be attentive:3.0,needs you need:3.0,safely and refuse:3.0,clean your relationship:3.0,sick of having:3.0,interactions and focus:3.0,tactic after planning:3.0,relationship from tactics:3.0,focus on creating:3.0,change your tactics:3.0,creating a positive:3.0,attentive and respectful:3.0 47e96c7c-f684-45a9-b251-13947f000001 5e25f975cf5598d74e246638a22b984b5c02d26e
When you feel upset, dissatisfied, ignored or simply angry, you need to focus on:

 

By confronting, of course!

Plan ahead: to be able to confront effectively, you need to pinpoint precisely what is upsetting you; how such behavior is affecting you, and the negative consequences of such behavior on your plans, time, money, energy, whatever.

To confront effectively, use this assertive tactic after planning what EXACTLY you are you going to say and do. It is better not to improvise in the heat of the argument!

This tactic really works, to call the attention of your partner and make this person be attentive and respectful of your needs...you need to try it now.

Know how to escalate safely, and refuse to avoid once more what is hurting you both. Clean your relationship from tactics that are only frustrating and not conducive to good, positive interactions.

And focus on creating a positive environment again.

 

AND MUCH MORE!!!!! IF YOU ARE SICK OF HAVING THE SAME BATTLES ABOUT THE SAME ISSUES, CHANGE YOUR TACTICS, AND DO SOME SURPRISING!

]]> You can start learning right now how to be a good enemy, by reading and working the many tactics that the the e-book "POSITIVE CONFLICTS" offers to you.

You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes.
Neil Warner

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